“Do I Really Need a Will?” It’s one of the most commonly asked questions in estate planning. It often comes up after the holidays. Meaningful family conversations, or the simple realization that life feels fuller and more complex than it once did, can bring this question to your mind. 

I want to encourage you not to push the question away. While it may feel uncomfortable at first, keep in mind that this conversation isn’t about pressure or urgency. It’s about clarity. It’s OK to give yourself some breathing room as you consider this, so you can make thoughtful decisions that feel right for your life. 

What a Will Does
At its core, a will is a written record of your intentions. It allows you to clearly state: 

• Who should handle your affairs 

• Who should receive certain assets 

• Who should make decisions for minor children, if applicable. 

A will doesn’t need to be complicated to be meaningful. Even a simple document ensures that your voice is part of the process. More than a checklist, a will can provide clarity for loved ones during an already emotional time. 

“My Situation Is Simple” 
Many people assume they don’t need a will because their assets feel modest, their family structure feels straightforward, or they believe everything will automatically go to a spouse. 

These assumptions are completely human, and very common. But a will isn’t about how much money you have. It’s about whether you want to leave clear guidance behind or rely on default state laws to make decisions on your behalf. 

When someone passes away without a will, state laws determine how assets and responsibilities are handled. While those laws are designed to be broadly fair, they are necessarily generic. They don’t account for personal relationships, values, or family dynamics. For some families, that works just fine. For others, it can lead to outcomes that feel misaligned, simply because no personal direction was left behind. 

What a Will Doesn’t Do 
Just as important is understanding what a will does not do. A will is not a one-document solution. Certain accounts—such as retirement accounts and life insurance policies—are governed by beneficiary designations, which override what a will says. If those designations are outdated or overlooked, they can unintentionally create confusion, delays, or outcomes that don’t reflect your wishes. 

I have worked with clients who have inherited accounts with outdated beneficiary designations, and it can create real complications, including unnecessary delays and emotional strain for families already navigating loss. These situations are more common than most people realize—and often entirely preventable.  

This is why coordination matters. Wills, beneficiary designations, and your broader financial picture all work best when they are aligned. That’s why it helps to not think of a will in isolation. Rather, it is part of a healthy overall financial plan. 

A Simple First Step: Take Inventory 
Before drafting a will, there’s a powerful first step that requires no legal documents at all: take inventory. This doesn’t mean exact balances or perfect records. It simply means creating a list of what accounts and policies exist and where they’re held. We have a simple template on our website if you need help getting started.  

For many people, this step alone brings a sense of calm. The unknown becomes visible, and what once felt overwhelming becomes manageable. From there, a will often becomes the natural next step, because it formally organizes that information and puts clear direction around it. 

When starting out, remember that the goal isn’t perfection. It’s participation. Your inventory only needs to reflect your life as it exists today, not anticipate every future situation. 

Key Takeaway: Clarity is kind. 
A will, up-to-date beneficiary designations, and thoughtful coordination help ensure your intentions, not default rules, guide the people you love. Thoughtful planning also reminds your loved ones that you cared – because you took the time to smooth the way by leaving things in good order.   

Rather than ignoring the question about having a will when it comes up, I encourage you to consider it as an opportunity to create a path forward for those you love.